Being a kitten can be a huge part of who we are and/or even part of our identity. Getting to be a kitten or partake in kitten play is so sexy and exciting! But what do we do when that kitten goes missing? Hopefully I can help with what to do while you await her return.
While we might enjoy and absolutely adore being a kitten, some days that feisty feline just isn’t there. The first step to help is to not beat yourself up over it. It happens to every kitten! I know I’ve definitely had my dull hairball days. It can be very discouraging to you and your master when kitten isn’t on the prowl but it’s not your fault.
Utilize this break! It may sound crazy but sometimes a break is needed. Any kink or lifestyle can be especially draining. Whether it’s mentally, emotionally, or physically. This isn’t to say that it’s bad! Just that the bowl of milk does eventually run empty. Use this time to explore other things (hobbies, headspaces, kinks) or dedicate it to self care and bettering yourself. Developing better habits outside of kitten space will definitely improve your kitten’s mentality as well.
Once you’ve done all you think you could and have had your self vacation but you still find yourself lost, try going back to the basics. When you’re in kink, especially after several years, you learn all these things and always want to do big scenes or intense play. Sometimes it’s nice to take it back to just some handcuffs (of any material) and a paddle or old fashioned hand spanking. Maybe not even those things. Maybe you want a less strict more caregiver type scene. Regardless of how you want it, it’s nice to slow down and go back to what got you started into kink.
After you’ve done your break, slowed things down and maybe have had your share of possibly trying to craft your own ears (and failing..a lot :/), find your favorite toy and milk bowl to relight that inner kitten fire. Taking a break from things can really bring joy and better appreciation for your kitten side. As well as what you loved and missed doing. I’m sure if you have a master, they will definitely be happy to find their favorite feline has come home!
In conclusion, a break from anything is a good thing and remember to slow things down or reminisce in old times. Always know it’s never your fault if you feel kittenspace isn’t coming to you as easily as it was before. And in the end, if you feel that maybe that kitten has done all she can do and it’s time to move on, that’s fine too. That’s the lovely path of kink or alt. lifestyles, it’s your choice and your growth.
Hope this helps any struggling kitten! <3